I recently read this post about the importance of traditions. Usually I would agree with it wholeheartedly. I love all my traditions – especially at Christmas – and enjoy adding in new ones from time to time. But this year I find myself feeling … heretical.
This year I find myself disgruntled with tradition. This week I have thought things about traditions I have never thought before.
Here are three reasons traditions may not be so great:
1. You do them because you do them. Not because you choose to do them. Not because they add meaning to your life. Not because you have carefully added them to your schedule to help your family understand the message of Christmas.
2. They can be a source of marital disharmony. After 2 decades of living with one family’s traditions, you have to merge them with someone else’s family traditions. And that’s before your siblings get married and there are even more “We-always-do-it-this-way”s to incorporate.
3. It hurts like billy-oh when a key person isn’t there any more taking their traditional role.
What to do? Well now I’ve got that all off my chest, I’ll carry on as normal. Traditions will remain in place as a source of strength, continuity and belonging. After all, there’s always next year to do it all differently … or perhaps the next … or the one after that …